7 Habits of Highly
Successful Teens
Habit 5
5. Seek First to
understand, and then to be Understood.
Because most people don’t
listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many don’t feel
understood. This habit will ensure your teen learns the most important
communication skill there is: active listening.
Why is this habit the key
to communication? It’s because the deepest need of the human heart is to be
understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are- a
unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned individual. People won’t expose their
soft middles unless they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel
it, however, they will tell you more than you may want to hear. People don’t
care how much you know until they know how much you care.
Listen with your eyes,
heart, and ears. 7 percent of communication is contained in the words we use.
The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the
tone and feeling reflected in our voice (40 percent).
Most people are eager to talk
than listen. We have one mouth and two ears. This means we should listen twice
as much as we talk. We actually learn more listening rather than when we talk.
Learn to listen and listen to learn.
Listen, really listen, for
understanding.
Seek first to understand
then to be understood-LISTEN.
Choose the right!!!
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